不生氣的智慧—-以弗所書4:26-27[生氣卻不要犯罪, 不可含怒到日落, 也不可給魔鬼留地步.] 我們在現實生活中, 難免會彼此傷害. 有時是你不小心傷害了人, 有時是別人傷害了你. 然而你怎麼處理傷害, 將決定你的人生是否蒙福. 如果你緊緊抓住傷害不放, 它就會成為憤怒, 變成苦毒, 甚至怨恨讓你失去愛人的能力, 進而帶來關係的破壞. 聖經約伯記5:2”憤怒害死愚妄人, 嫉妒殺死癡迷人.” 它把憤怒與愚妄連結在一起. 換句話説憤怒就是愚妄. 因為憤怒其實是沒有意義的, 是白費力氣. 不論你多憤怒, 也無法改變過去發生的事. 更何況我們不可能, 一邊活在憤怒中, 還想同時過開心蒙福的生活. 聖短裏有一位人物名叫約伯, 他在病痛中遭到妻子的離棄, 朋友不但不同情他, 甚至落井下石. 約伯大受打擊, 心裡充滿了憤怒, 可是他卻沒有讓憤怒吞噬他的生命. 他沒有為惡所勝, 反而以善勝惡. 約伯照聖經的原則, 用良善饒恕勝過他的憤怒與傷害. 終於約伯從傷害中恢復起來. 上帝並且加倍的報償他. 約伯因著有上帝, 人生沒有結束在憤怒苦毒和不甘心裹面. 親愛的朋友, 無論過去你有什麼痛苦, 背叛, 或傷害, 上帝都能改變你, 但我們要學習以上帝的方法, 來處理傷害, 才能從憤怒的情緒中得到釋放. 首先需承認並說出你的傷痛. 要和約伯一樣, 他有一切憤怒的理由, 他不是一再的壓抑, 而是向上帝承認他的情緒, 告訴上帝他有多生氣, 多不公平, 約伯把他的情緒交到上帝的手中. 並且饒恕傷害他的人. 不讓別人的錯誤繼續傷害自己. 他也選擇停止看過去, 而是向前看, 不是活在受害者的心態裏面. 親愛的朋友, 不要讓過去定義你的人生, 要面對未來, 重新生活, 停止看那些過去得罪你的人事物. 要向前看, 當你向前看, 傷害的記憶就會減弱或消失. 痛苦也將釋懷, 上帝必要大大賜福你的未來. 孟子在梁惠王下對憤怒有一番精辟的總結”惟仁者為能以大事小, 是故湯事葛, 文王事昆夷. 惟智者能以小事大, 故大王事獯鬻, 勾踐事吳. 以大事小者, 樂天者也. 以小事大者, 畏天者也. 樂天者保天下, 畏天者保其國. 詩云：畏天之成, 于時保之.” 孟子強調用智慧將個人的憤怒轉化為福國利民的動力, 如此才能順天應人.
Wisdom not to be angry – Ephesians 4:26-27 [Be angry but do not sin, do not let the sun go down with your anger, and do not give place to the devil.] In real life, it is inevitable that we will hurt each other. Sometimes it is you When you accidentally hurt someone, sometimes someone else hurts you. But how you deal with the hurt will determine whether your life is blessed or not. If you hold on to the hurt, it can turn into anger, into bitterness, or even Resentment deprives you of the ability to love, which in turn destroys relationships. The Bible says Job 5:2 “Anger kills the fool, but envy kills the charming.” It connects anger with foolishness. In other words, anger is Stupidity. Because anger is actually pointless and waste of effort . No matter how angry you are, you can’t change what happened in the past. And we can’t live in anger and want to live a happy and blessed life at the same time. There is a character named Job in the short text. He was abandoned by his wife during his illness. Not only did his friends not sympathize with him, but they even fell into trouble. Job was hit hard, and his heart was full of anger, but he did not let the anger consume him. life. He was not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. According to the principles of the Bible, Job overcomes his wrath and injury with good forgiveness. Finally Job recovered from his injury. God repaid him double. Covenant Because of God, life does not end in anger, bitterness and unwillingness. Dear friends, no matter what pain, betrayal, or hurt you have in the past, God can change you, but we have to learn in God’s way, To deal with the hurt, you can be released from your anger. First, you need to admit and say your hurt. Like Job, he has all the reasons for his anger. Instead of repressing it again and again, he confesses his anger to God. Emotions, telling God how angry and unfair he was, Job put his emotions into God’s hands. And forgive those who hurt him. Don’t let other people’s mistakes continue to hurt himself. He also chose to stop looking at the past, but Look forward, don’t live in a victim mentality. Dear friends, don’t let the past define your life, face the future, live anew, stop looking at the people and things that offended you in the past. Look forward, when you Looking forward, the memory of hurt will weaken or disappear. The pain will also be relieved, and God will greatly bless your future. Mencius has a brilliant summary of anger under King Hui of Liang. The story goes that Tang dealt with Ge, and King Wen dealt with Kunyi. Only the wise can deal with small matters, so the great king dealt with oxen, and Gou Jian dealt with Wu. Those who deal with small matters are also happy. Those who deal with small matters are also afraid of heaven. In the world, those who fear the sky will protect their country. The poem goes: Fear the sky and protect it in time.” Mencius emphasized the use of wisdom to transform personal anger into the driving force of benefiting the country and the people, so as to obey the sky and respond to people.