人際關係的健康界線—-約翰一書［親愛的弟兄啊, 上帝既是這樣愛我們. 我們也當彼此相愛.］我們在人際關係的互動上有如豪豬一樣, 需要保持適當的距離, 才能享受互動的過程, 而不被彼此的尖刺扎到. 在聖經中耶穌與他12位門徒相處時, 有兩個門徒與他們的母親來見耶穌, 這位母親希望這兩位兒子能在耶穌身旁坐高位, 一位要坐在耶穌的右邊, 另一位要坐在耶穌的左邊, 成為門徒中的管理者. 只外十位門徒聽見, 就惱怒這兩位弟兄. 但耶穌回答説, 這不是祂能決定. 上帝差派誰, 誰才能坐在高位上. 耶穌也説在門徒中誰為大, 就要做其他門徒的佣人. 不是受人服侍, 而是要服侍人, 並且要捨命做多人的贖價. 馬太福音20:26-28. 耶穌在處理門徒中誰為大誰為首時, 很清楚説這不是他的決定, 而是上帝的決定. 這是人際關係的健康界線. 因為耶穌是帶著極大的愛來到這世上, 背負著世人的罪, 釘在十字架, 為世人贖罪. 今天當你遇到人際關係中的難題時, 鼓勵你來尋找這位被釘在十字架上的耶穌, 祂是一切難題的解答. 祂必會幫助你釐清問題, 使你設立健康的界線, 建立良好的人際關係.
Healthy Boundaries in Relationships – 1 John [Dear brother, God loves us this way. We should love each other too.] We are like porcupines in our interpersonal interactions, and we need to maintain a proper distance to enjoy interaction without being pierced by each other’s thorns. In the Bible, when Jesus was with his 12 disciples, two disciples came to Jesus with their mother, who wanted the two sons to be by Jesus’ side In the high seat, one will sit on the right side of Jesus, and the other will sit on the left side of Jesus, and be the ruler among the disciples. When only ten disciples heard it, they were angry with the two brothers. But Jesus replied, this is not He can decide. Whoever is sent by God can sit in the high place. Jesus also said that whoever is greatest among the disciples should be the servant of the other disciples. Not to be served, but to serve, and to give his life to serve A ransom for many. Matthew 20:26-28. When Jesus dealt with who was the greatest among his disciples, Jesus made it clear that it was not his decision, but God’s. It was a healthy boundary for relationships. Because Jesus came into this world with great love, to bear the sins of the world, to be nailed to the cross, and to make atonement for the world. Today, when you encounter problems in your relationships, I encourage you to find this man who was nailed to the cross. Jesus, who is the answer to all your problems. He will help you to clarify your problems so that you can set healthy boundaries and build good relationships.