真正的饒恕—-馬太福音6:14［你們饒恕人的過犯, 你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯.］饒恕是持續性的心理狀態, 饒恕是在於神. 我們能夠饒恕是因為神先饒恕我們, 這是神賜下的命令, 是神給我們力量饒恕. 我們饒恕人是因為神會有公義的審判. 我們能夠饒恕人是因為比起沉浸在憤怒裡面, 我們更在乎神的同在. 我們能夠饒恕人, 是因為在乎神更勝過我們感受到的痛苦, 相信神會成就對的事, 相信神的主權. 饒恕不代表認同對方的行為, 不代表事情未曾發生或一筆勾消, 也不代表為對方錯誤行為找藉口, 或為對方罪行合理化. 饒恕不代表忽視別人帶來的傷害, 或否認别人傷害我的事實. 饒恕不代表放任別人踩在我們的頭上, 或不舉發對方罪行. 饒恕不代表忘記對方錯誤, 或假裝沒有傷害, 或要和對方恢復關係, 或必須再次成為朋友. 饒恕不代表需若無其事與對方和好, 或必須告知對方已經原諒他. 如果別人騙你錢, 你可以選擇原諒他, 但你不可能選擇與他繼續有金錢上的往來.饒恕是從零開始選擇信任, 你要去觀察對方的改變, 需要保持安全的距離, 避免二次受到傷害. 請求饒恕需耐心等待關係恢復. 饒恕不是道德綁架, 也不是廉價的恩典. 譬如我們饒恕日本二戰對亞洲隣邦的滔天罪行, 日本不能要求我們忘記, 更不能扭曲歷史, 將侵略變成進出, 或不付出合理的賠償. 放棄賠償是對國人最大的背叛與對公義的摧殘. 饒恕仍要保護自己. 美國在二戰後馴服日本, 將日本變為親美的殖民地, 這是饒恕的最高境界. 美國用同樣的方法改造二戰後的德國. 饒恕+積極的改造, 才能充分彰顯神的大能. 饒恕並不是消極的不作為. 饒恕全然是來自於神的恩典, 是讓神的愛與恩典充滿我們, 改造我們, 進而能影響到曾經傷害過我們的人. 使我們在饒恕後有一個全新的人生.
True Forgiveness – Matthew 6:14 [If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive your trespasses.] Forgiveness is a continuous state of mind, and forgiveness lies in God. We can forgive because God forgives us first. This is a command given by God. It is God who gives us the strength to forgive. We forgive because God will judge righteously. We can forgive because it is better than being immersed in anger. , we care more about God’s presence. We can forgive because we care about God more than the pain we feel, believe that God will do the right thing, and believe in God’s sovereignty. Forgiveness does not mean agreeing with the other person’s behavior, nor does it mean The fact that the matter never happened or is wiped out does not mean making excuses for the other person’s wrong behavior or rationalizing the other person’s crime. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring the harm caused by others, or denying the fact that others have hurt me. Forgiveness does not mean letting others step on me. Forgiveness does not mean that we forget the other person’s mistakes, or pretend that no harm was done, or that we need to restore the relationship with the other person, or that we must become friends again. Forgiveness does not mean that we need to reconcile with the other person as if nothing happened, or that we need to inform the other person. The other party has forgiven him. If someone cheats you of money, you can choose to forgive him, but you cannot choose to continue to have financial dealings with him. Forgiveness is choosing to trust from scratch. You have to observe the other person’s changes and need to stay safe. distance to avoid being hurt again. When asking for forgiveness, you need to wait patiently for the relationship to recover. Forgiveness is not moral kidnapping, nor is it cheap grace. For example, we forgive Japan for its heinous crimes against its Asian neighbors during World War II. Japan cannot ask us to forget, let alone distort history. , turning the invasion into entry and exit, or not paying reasonable compensation. Giving up compensation is the greatest betrayal of the people and the destruction of justice. Forgiveness must still protect oneself. The United States tamed Japan after World War II and turned Japan into a pro-American colony. This is the highest state of forgiveness. The United States used the same method to transform Germany after World War II. Only forgiveness + positive transformation can fully demonstrate the power of God. Forgiveness is not passive inaction. Forgiveness comes entirely from God’s grace. It is Let God’s love and grace fill us, transform us, and then affect those who have hurt us. Let us have a new life after forgiveness.