有效道歉, 化解衝突—-箴言18:12［敗壞之先, 人必驕傲. 尊榮以前, 必有謙卑.］道歉有許多不同的形式與面向. 說對不起的核心在於同理心, 不是為事件本身的對錯. 而是放下理性的分析, 單單為愛對方的緣故, 同理對方的情緒, 為了避免對方難過. 說我錯了就是願意𠄘認錯誤, 向對方道歉. 或表達彌補的意願, 或展現改變的誠意, 或向對方說明自己有疏忽, 提出改善的方式, 避免再犯同樣的錯誤. 或請求原諒, 把主動權交給對方, 由對方決定要不要原諒自己. 當我們能找到合適的道歉方式時, 不僅使溝通最有效, 更能表達真誠道歉的心. 當我們面對失誤時, 你願意放下身段, 承認錯誤, 並且願意調整改變, 請求原諒嗎？在我們生活當中, 無法避免的會因為各種原因面對許多衝突, 在我們面對衡突時的態度與回應, 反應出我們內心的光景. 在聖經中的大衛, 被上帝稱為合上帝心意的領袖. 但他也曾因為犯下極大的錯誤, 而當先知拿單指出大衛的錯時, 大衛第一句話卻是［我得罪了上帝.］大衛雖然貴為一國的君王, 卻能謙卑承認自己的錯誤. 他的謙卑不但沒有讓他的位份降低. 反而使他得到更大的尊敬. 親愛的信眾, 一個人的偉大或是尊貴, 不在他有沒有犯錯, 有沒有缺失, 或是不是完美. 而是如何何面對你的失敗. 上帝並不是只將祝福賜給完美的人, 不會犯錯的人. 上帝賜福謙卑的人. 今天願上帝祝福你得著謙卑的祝福. 當你願意以謙卑的態度勇敢的道歉, 承認錯誤, 並且尋求原諒的時候, 上帝必要使你在關係當中經歷祝福, 並且能夠向上提昇.
Effective apology to resolve conflicts – Proverbs 18:12 [Before corruption, there must be pride. Before honor, there must be humility.] Apology has many different forms and aspects. The core of saying sorry is empathy, not for The incident itself is right or wrong. Instead, I put aside rational analysis, just for the sake of loving the other person, empathizing with the other person’s emotions, and to avoid the other person being sad. To say that I was wrong means that I am willing to admit my mistake and apologize to the other person. Or express my willingness to make amends. , or show sincerity in changing, or explain to the other party that you have been negligent, and propose ways to improve to avoid making the same mistake again. Or ask for forgiveness, give the initiative to the other party, and let the other party decide whether to forgive yourself. When we can find a suitable The apology method not only makes communication the most effective, but also expresses a sincere apology. When we face mistakes, are you willing to put down your body, admit your mistakes, make adjustments and ask for forgiveness? In our lives, we will inevitably face many conflicts for various reasons. Our attitude and response when facing conflicts reflect the state of our hearts. David in the Bible is called by God to be worthy of God A leader of the heart. But he also made huge mistakes. When the prophet Nathan pointed out David’s mistakes, David’s first words were “I have sinned against God.” Although David was the leader of a nation, A king can humbly admit his mistakes. His humility not only did not lower his status, but also earned him greater respect. Dear believers, the greatness or dignity of a person does not depend on whether he has made mistakes, but on whether he has made mistakes. There is nothing missing or imperfect. It’s how you face your failures. God doesn’t just bless the perfect, the infallible. God blesses the humble. May God bless you today. Blessings of humility. When you are willing to bravely apologize, admit mistakes, and seek forgiveness with a humble attitude, God will enable you to experience blessings in your relationship and be able to improve.