如何讀懂另一半的心—-哥林多前書13:7-8a[凡事包容, 凡事相信, 凡事盼望, 凡事忍耐. 愛是永不止息.]. 妻子談問題只是要尋求支持, 只是尋求心理壓力的紓解. 而丈夫聼到以為妻子遇到問題, 需要解答. 所以你拼命解答她的問題. 或是你以為妻子在對你生氣, 要你負責. 而當一個丈夫覺得他被攻擊的時候, 他就會保護自己. 他就會開始解釋表白. 他以為他的解釋, 可以停止對方的責怪. 而妻子們妳們一定要了解, 妳越攻擊丈夫, 當丈夫受到挑戰的時候, 他的注意力會集中在對與錯上面, 而忘記了愛. 而丈夫受到攻擊越強, 他的自我防衛心態就越強化. 話語就會越發的冷漠, 越沒有愛心. 甚至封閉拒絕. 不願意再聽. 有修養的他就會沈默不語. 而差一點的就發怒反擊. 所以妻子最好小心一點, 不要惹妳的丈夫. 惹到他的臨界點, 他會反擊的. 當你覺得對方不合理不對, 吹毛求疵, 小題大作, 得理不饒人, 對我們攻擊理怨, 我們就很難去接納認同. 丈夫啊！請接受妻子的感覺. 這不代表我們同意她的感覺. 或是同意他的説法, 可是她需要我的認同跟接納. 這很難因為這個時候妻子説話, 大多數是很難聽. 所以丈夫們, 讓我們一起來學習怎麼樣做. 心理算一, 二, 三, 四…算到一百. 不要講話. 咬著牙算到一百. 我們可以默背詩篇第23篇耶和華是我的牧者…還是你要背哥林多前書13:4-8愛是恆久忍耐又有恩慈….破山中賊易, 破心中賊難. 我們要用壓制心中的魔鬼. 用愛心促進夫妻身心靈全方位的融合. 上帝代表我們的心, 此心天地可鑒.
How to read the heart of the other half – 1 Corinthians 13:7-8 a[ Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.]. The wife talks about problems just to seek support, Just looking for relief from psychological stress. And the husband hears and thinks that his wife has a problem and needs answers. So you try to answer her questions. Or you think your wife is angry with you and holds you responsible. When attacked, he will protect himself. He will begin to explain and confess. He thinks that his explanation can stop the other party’s blame. And wives, you must understand that the more you attack your husband, when the husband is challenged, His attention will focus on right and wrong, and he will forget about love. And the stronger the husband is attacked, the stronger his self-defense mentality will be. The more indifferent and unloving his words will be. Even closed and rejected. Listen again. He will be silent if he is educated. And he will be angry and fight back. So the wife should be careful not to provoke your husband. If you provoke his critical point, he will fight back. Unreasonable and wrong, nitpicking, making fuss, being unreasonable, attacking us and complaining, it will be difficult for us to accept and approve. Husband! Please accept my wife’s feelings. It doesn’t mean we agree with her feelings. Let’s learn how to do it together. Mental count one, two, three, four…to one hundred. Don’t talk. Grind your teeth and count to one hundred. We can memorize Psalm 23 The Lord is my Shepherd… Or you have to memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind … It is easy to break the thief in the mountain, but difficult to break the thief in the heart. We must suppress the devil in our heart. Use love to promote the all-round physical and spiritual development of husband and wife Fusion. God represents our heart, and this heart can be learned from heaven and earth.